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No matter how good your vision is, and how well yo No matter how good your vision is, and how well you know yourself, and how much of “the work” you’ve taken on, blindspots are still lurking out there, on the edges of your peripheral vision. Perhaps the real work isn’t to get rid of them, since we can’t anyway (remember, even if we become aware of a blindspot, there will be others just behind it), but instead to know we have blindspots, and always will, just like those people over there. We can’t abolish them, but we can embrace knowing what we know, accepting that there is always much to learn, and being gracious with others for having blindspots, too. Adam mentioned to me today that the window between me being snappy/defensive is getting shorter than it used to be. He acknowledged me for growing my ability to see what’s gotten me hooked, and to take responsibility for it. There was a time (and there may still be moments🤓) when that alone would have had me hissing, because I didn't want to own my short fuse or admit I was wrong or in any way not right/perfect. But I know what's going on now, because I've had that blindspot reflected to me, which meant I could start to notice it myself. And that gives me the opportunity to choose something different in the moment try than my knee-jerk ego-protection reaction. That's how this works. We need help to discover our blindspots. Can you relate? ❤️ #practicenotperfection
How To Make People Change: Part Three ***** This How To Make People Change: Part Three ***** This is the third article in the How To Make People Change series; a four-part essay about the importance of calling people in. You can read the post that started this series here. It made its debut in the middle of the Covid-19 pandemic, and all the ensuing social strife and general madness, but this is as timely an idea no matter when you find yourself reading it. Calling people in is the oft-missing follow up to calling people out. Once you have called someone out, then what happens? Both parties walk away and suddenly there is change? Transformation? Camaraderie? Yeah, not so much. After being called out, our natural self defenses can kick in, protecting our egos and further widening the chasm between our ostensibly competing beliefs. Arms are crossed, heels are dug, and those people over there? They’re idiots. If we’re at our best benevolent selves, we decide that they’re naive and mis/uninformed. However, since we’re not usually at our best while engaged in ongoing finger pointing, it’s more often the case that we’re right (obviously), and they’re ignorant, stupid and wrong. Shouting at someone, or even earnestly hoping to be helpful whilst pointing to someone else’s wrongdoing and wrong thinking, doesn’t give them all that much to go on, when it comes to actually changing anything. The third practice in calling people in is all about setting the stage for real change. It’s about providing a foothold, so that people can envision a future worth creating, and for which they would change the way they think, speak or act. Continue reading this post at the link in my profile: @bayleblancquiney
No one nominated me, so I just took a black and wh No one nominated me, so I just took a black and white photo of myself right now and decided to nominate my own damn self. I noticed I was waiting to be invited to participate in a game I didn’t really care if I played. Then I realized that waiting is something pretty familiar to me and I’m tired of playing that particular game, waiting in the wings. I’m not sure what this challenge is meant to do, really, but I’m pretty sure it isn’t to make me feel unloved and unwanted, and last to be picked, like gym class in junior high school. I don’t need an invitation to celebrate myself or other amazing women, and waiting for it seems like waiting for permission and approval, and I’m well past the age of needing more of that shit, as I’d like to think we all should be. So hey y’all, I say nominate your own damn selves and don’t wait to be asked. Life is short. This all ends. Nominate yourself. Celebrate yourself. #challengeaccepted #challengecreated #nominateyourowndamnself #selflove
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It’s so important to learn how to call people in It’s so important to learn how to call people in. It makes all the difference in the world, if you’re hoping to make a difference in the world (even if it’s just your corner of the world).⁣ ⁣ You wanna have a better relationship with your partner? Learn to call them in. You want a better relationship with your kids? Learn to call them in. Want a better team experience at work, with your employees/colleagues/boss? Learn to call them in.⁣ ⁣ This is the second step in the four-part series on learning how to call people in. Even though I think all four steps are are equally as important, I think that having grace, and actively practicing having more of it, in particular, is sort of the glue that holds all of these steps together.⁣ ⁣ Without further ado:⁣ ⁣ 1. Being Responsible versus Being Righteous⁣ 2. Holding Grace versus Holding Judgment⁣ 3. Inspiring versus Convincing⁣ 4. Being Curious versus Being Right⁣ ⁣ Holding Grace versus Holding Judgment⁣ ⁣ This one. Oh, but this one is important. We are all gonna need a boatload of grace in this life. And not like a canoe or a dinghy, either. Think cruise-ship-sized grace.⁣ ⁣ That’s a lot of grace. And lord knows we need it. Have you seen us lately? I mean, wow.⁣ ⁣ You know how you need to hold space for little kids to learn manners and how to share and how to hold a spoon, even though it’s frustrating at the time and seems like they’ll never get it? Yeah, I’m talking about that level of grace. We need dealing-with-a-toddler-level grace if we’re going to be hanging around humans at the best of times.⁣ ⁣ And let’s be honest, this is not the best of times. The whole damn world has lost its collective mind, and we’re all arguing over the right way to hold a spoon.⁣ ⁣ The ability to hold space and have grace is incredibly important when you have a disagreement in beliefs and practices with a person or group of people (e.g. wearing a mask or not, practicing social distancing or not, learning about systemic racism and white privilege/fragility).⁣ ⁣ Continue reading at link in bio: @bayleblancquiney
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