I see you...
You've created a really good life. You've had a lot of success, though I know it never feels like you're quite getting to where you want to be.
Maybe you have a pretty great romantic relationship, but you know, or maybe you wish it could be even better. Maybe you’ve settled for a career or a relationship (or a lack of one) when you know that what you really want looks different than what you’ve got.
I’m guessing that there’s one aspect of your dream life that always seems to be just out of reach, and even though it looks good to everyone else, you deeply yearn for the pieces of your life to line up and feel whole.
I help people just like you to learn how to harness their desire and drive from a place of self love and self-acceptance, rather than control and brute force.
I help driven people get out from under the crushing weight of their impossible-to-meet expectations, to relinquish their perfectionism, heal from the autoimmune disease that their perfectionism inevitably becomes, and to create and live a beautiful experience of life, instead. A life that includes incredible achievements, certainly, but not at the expense of joy and peace and well-being.
See, that’s the thing. It’s very likely, because of who you are by nature, that you’ll create a pretty incredible life. Even if it doesn’t perfectly match up with the life you’d love to be living, it’s probably pretty objectively good.
The problem, though, is that you can’t seem to enjoy it. Even when you get to where you so wanted to be, it doesn’t feel quite as satisfying as you dreamed it would.
Sound familiar?
By the time people meet me, their winning strategy of pushing, driving and grinding themselves into dust to meet their goals has usually stopped working for them, which is pretty bewildering. I know it sure was for me. They are tired and frustrated, and all their old methods either don’t work, or have vastly diminishing returns. The same old work isn’t getting the same old reward.
But here's the thing...
But here’s the thing: your body and your soul know that it’s time to evolve into a place of self love and acceptance. Love and joy and true satisfaction don’t come at the expense of your mental, physical and spiritual well-being. In fact, those things cannot coexist with the neglect of your mental, physical and spiritual well-being.
You cannot, it turns out, grind or hate yourself into a version of yourself that is lovable. One, because it doesn’t work that way, and two, because you don’t need to fix anything about yourself to be worthy of love. You don’t need to be fixed, because you are not broken, though I know sometimes it can feel that way.
If you’ve always been able to force life to bend to your will, but lately the harder you push, the more dwindling seem the returns, then congratulations! You’re in the right place, at the right time. You’re at the crossroads of your hero’s journey, the way back to your heart and the true essence of who you came here to be. This is how you unlock your magic.
You’ve already seen what you can do from a place of self-loathing or at least a hefty dose of self-neglect. I bet it was pretty impressive, which is unfortunate, because as long as our crappy strategies work, we keep relying on them. No, now, it’s time for you to see what life can be like from a place of self-loving. It’s a much nicer experience, I promise.
I help people learn to allow the love they so deeply desire, starting with themselves, and create personal relationships that only get better, more intimate and more loving over time.
I help people and organizations play the “what-if” game from a lens of possibility and desire, using curiosity, generosity, grace and imagination, instead of following flow charts and spreadsheets and trying to avoid the worst-case scenario.
I believe in magic and adventure, because I can’t imagine living in a world without it and expecting anything to change or get better. I mean, just look at the state of things these days.
I believe in people. I believe that we are powerful beyond imagination, that anything you can dream is possible, and that love, curiosity and passion are the best fuel for a better life and a better world.
I believe in you. And I know that when you learn to love yourself, you can combine the power of your dreaming with the power of your driving, and that’s when the real magic starts to happen.
