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How to Stop Getting Stuck at “I Don’t Know.”

How to Stop Getting Stuck at “I Don’t Know.”

What comes after “I don’t know”? What happens when you don’t know the answer, or the path ahead? Do you just shrug and give up? Is “I don’t know” the end of a conversation? Most of the time, I’ve noticed, it seems to be. “I don’t know” very often turns into I give up....

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The Myth of Certainty

The Myth of Certainty

2020. It feels a bit like we’re bobbing in the ocean, and the waves are coming in too hard and fast to find the bottom, or to catch our breath before we’re ducking beneath the next set. I know I’ve written about this before, but I feel like I could use a refresher. In...

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Why You Might Want to Take a Break (& How to Do It)

Why You Might Want to Take a Break (& How to Do It)

I am tired. I am tired of reading the news, and talking about heavy things, and feeling sad and afraid and angry and frustrated and empowered and helpless. I am tired of postponing plans and events, and not knowing when I can mark dates on the calendar. I am already...

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How Not to Say the Wrong Thing

How Not to Say the Wrong Thing

We’ve all been there before: sitting in a conversation and watching the dialogue volley around like rubber bullets, waiting for just the right moment to share our thoughts. You want to take part, but you don’t want to take a hit. As the time passes, though, we become...

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Back to Business As Usual

Back to Business As Usual

At this point of The Great Pause (as we’ve taken to calling this pandemic in our household), I don’t know about you, but turning on the TV has become a stroll down memory lane. Having watched anything relatively recently released that we’ve wanted to catch up on,...

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Stop Looking for Silver Linings

Stop Looking for Silver Linings

Let me begin by stating that, for the record, I have no problem with finding bright sides, being optimistic or having a cheerful disposition. I have been accused of all of these, and for good reason. And, that being said, I hate the term “Silver Lining”. I have an...

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Surrender as an Act of Sovereignty

Surrender as an Act of Sovereignty

What comes to mind when you think of the idea of surrender? White flags waving in a breeze? Falling to your knees? Slapping the mat and crying “uncle”?  Hands up in the air, facing the foe? Or maybe literally every romance novel plot line ever, in which the headstrong...

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The Lost Art of Disagreement

The Lost Art of Disagreement

This article could also be called How to Disagree with People and Not Lose the Argument (or Your Mind). How does it go for you when you disagree with someone? Do you fold like a flapjack, or bare your teeth and go for the throat? If you tend towards either of these...

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Don’t Look For Balance; Create It. Here’s How.

Don’t Look For Balance; Create It. Here’s How.

It seems we’re ready to start thinking about slowing reconvening The World and The Economy and Life. This is a pivotal moment for humanity in so many ways. We are emerging from a global crisis, and we’ve all had a little time to think about things: how we want them to...

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