How to Make People Change: Part Three
This is the third article in the How To Make People Change series; a four-part essay about the importance of calling people in. You can read the post that started this series here. It made its debut in the middle of the Covid-19 pandemic, and all the ensuing social...
How to Make People Change: Part Two
It’s so important to learn how to call people in. It makes all the difference in the world, if you’re hoping to make a difference in the world (even if it’s just your corner of the world). You wanna have a better relationship with your partner? Learn to call them in....
How to Make People Change: Part One
Okay, so that headline is pure fantasy and nothing else. How to make people change? Easy. You don’t/can’t. You and I? We can’t actually make anyone change. This is true, and we both already know it, because you and I both know that we have tried to change people...
Calling People In Versus Calling People Out
You know when you’re driving, and all of a sudden you hear the blast of a car horn erupt from out of nowhere? How jarring that is? There’s the swift rush of adrenaline as you try to figure out where the sound is coming from and what the danger is you’re unwittingly...
How to Stop Getting Stuck at “I Don’t Know.”
What comes after “I don’t know”? What happens when you don’t know the answer, or the path ahead? Do you just shrug and give up? Is “I don’t know” the end of a conversation? Most of the time, I’ve noticed, it seems to be. “I don’t know” very often turns into I give up....
The Myth of Certainty
2020. It feels a bit like we’re bobbing in the ocean, and the waves are coming in too hard and fast to find the bottom, or to catch our breath before we’re ducking beneath the next set. I know I’ve written about this before, but I feel like I could use a refresher. In...
Why You Might Want to Take a Break (& How to Do It)
I am tired. I am tired of reading the news, and talking about heavy things, and feeling sad and afraid and angry and frustrated and empowered and helpless. I am tired of postponing plans and events, and not knowing when I can mark dates on the calendar. I am already...
How Not to Say the Wrong Thing
We’ve all been there before: sitting in a conversation and watching the dialogue volley around like rubber bullets, waiting for just the right moment to share our thoughts. You want to take part, but you don’t want to take a hit. As the time passes, though, we become...
Back to Business As Usual
At this point of The Great Pause (as we’ve taken to calling this pandemic in our household), I don’t know about you, but turning on the TV has become a stroll down memory lane. Having watched anything relatively recently released that we’ve wanted to catch up on,...