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The Suffering You Choose

The Suffering You Choose

I have two sticky notes on my desk, and both remind me, in bright, lime-green emphasis of things I'm liable to easily and repeatedly forget. Both reminders are things my coach has said to me over the years we've worked together, and both are as true today as they have...

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Why Back-up Plans Don’t Work

Why Back-up Plans Don’t Work

The worst thing a back-up plan can do is work. Don't get me wrong; if I'm on a plane and it's going down, then you can be damn sure I want my parachute to work, and work well, at that. Incidentally, this is also the only situation in which I plan to ever use a...

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How to Change How You Feel

How to Change How You Feel

The past year has been a year full of what feels like unsolicited disclosure; a year of pulling back curtains and uncovering things that, quite frankly, I think a lot of us—from this side of things—would almost rather had remained cloaked by mystery and the sweet,...

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3 Ways to Make More Time

3 Ways to Make More Time

If I had a theme song, I'm torn between Loren Allred's Never Enough in The Greatest Showman, and Alabama's I'm In A Hurry (and don't know why). I mean, those and the theme from Indiana Jones, which might just be running quietly on repeat, all the time. Do you ever...

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The Magic Cure for Burnout (& How to Avoid It)

The Magic Cure for Burnout (& How to Avoid It)

Did you know Sunday is a holiday of sorts? It's not on any calendar, but hundreds of millions of people will celebrate it, all around the world. January 17th is Quitting Day, or Ditch Day. According to Strava, this is when millions of people will give up on their...

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The Problem with Goals and Resolutions

The Problem with Goals and Resolutions

It's a new year, which means it's time for the Annual Much Maligning of Goals and Resolutions. Get excited. I'm just going to get straight to the point. While I'm pro goals and resolutions, I'll admit there is a problem with goals and resolutions, and that problem is...

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How to Have a Better Year in 2021

How to Have a Better Year in 2021

Oh look! It's time for my annual reminder that a calendar year is not out to get you, even if it feels that way, or even if you have loads of evidence that it has been an awful, terrible, no-good, very bad year. Now, we can all collectively agree, I think, that 2020...

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Why You Might Want to Start Wasting Your Time

Why You Might Want to Start Wasting Your Time

It seems to me that these days, not much value is placed on the practice of puttering about having hobbies. You know, extracurricular activities, pastimes, leisurely pursuits and diversions? Hobbies are those things we undertake for the intrinsic joy of doing them, or...

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Why Tolerance Might Be Making Your Life Worse

Why Tolerance Might Be Making Your Life Worse

Well, if this year has taught us anything—and I think it's taught us a lot, whether we wanted to learn the lessons or not—it's shown us where the boundaries of our tolerance lay, and that those are fairly stretchy lines. This is a good thing in a pandemic, along with...

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